Cognitive Dissonance

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So a Girl Walks into a Comedy Club….

breakfastcookie:

This is something that happened to a friend of mine in her own words.

So, on Friday night my friend and I were at her house and wanted to get out and do something for the evening. We brainstormed ideas and she brought up the idea of seeing a show at the Laugh Factory. I’d never been, I thought it sounded fun, so we went. We saw that Dane Cook, along some other names we didn’t recognize we’re playing, and while we both agree that Cook’s style is not really our taste we were opened-minded about what the others had to offer. And we figured even good ol’ Dane can be funny sometimes, even if it’s not really our thing. Anyhoo, his act was actually fine, but then when his was done, some other guy I didn’t recognize took the stage. Of course, I would find out later this was Daniel Tosh, but at the time I thought he was just some yahoo who somehow got a gig going on after Cook. I honestly thought he was an amateur because he didn’t seem that comfortable on stage and seemed to have a really awkward presence. 


So Tosh then starts making some very generalizing, declarative statements about rape jokes always being funny, how can a rape joke not be funny, rape is hilarious, etc. I don’t know why he was so repetitive about it but I felt provoked because I, for one, DON’T find them funny and never have. So I didnt appreciate Daniel Tosh (or anyone!) telling me I should find them funny. So I yelled out, “Actually, rape jokes are never funny!”

I did it because, even though being “disruptive” is against my nature, I felt that sitting there and saying nothing, or leaving quietly, would have been against my values as a person and as a woman. I don’t sit there while someone tells me how I should feel about something as profound and damaging as rape. 

After I called out to him, Tosh paused for a moment. Then, he says, “Wouldn’t it be funny if that girl got raped by like, 5 guys right now? Like right now? What if a bunch of guys just raped her…” and I, completely stunned and finding it hard to process what was happening but knowing i needed to get out of there, immediately nudged my friend, who was also completely stunned, and we high-tailed it out of there. It was humiliating, of course, especially as the audience guffawed in response to Tosh, their eyes following us as we made our way out of there. I didn’t hear the rest of what he said about me.

Now in the lobby, I spoke with the girl at the will-call desk, and demanded to see the manager. The manager on duty quickly came out to speak with me, and she was profusely apologetic, and seemed genuinely sorry about what had happened, but of course we received no refund for our tickets, but instead a comped pair of tickets, although she admitted she understood if we never wanted to come back. I can imagine the Laugh Factory doesn’t really have a policy in place for what happens when a woman has to leave in a hurry because the person onstage is hurling violent words about sexual violence at her. Although maybe I’m not the first girl to have that happen to her. 

I should probably add that having to basically flee while Tosh was enthusing about how hilarious it would be if I was gang-raped in that small, claustrophic room was pretty viscerally terrifying and threatening all the same, even if the actual scenario was unlikely to take place. The suggestion of it is violent enough and was meant to put me in my place.”

Please reblog and spread the word.

1. Daniel Tosh is a complete asshole. 

2. I’m funnier than you, Tosh. I dare you to a comedy duel. Rules: No rape jokes, no fart jokes, no other people’s jokes.

Oh, that took all your material? 

Awww…

(via neive)

  1. thefinalmovement reblogged this from breakfastcookie and added:
    rape is never funny. never was and never will be.
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  5. askmongoloid reblogged this from mrplinkett and added:
    I’m not surprised that fucking Tosh potentially said something like that
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  13. thehobbitwithstickyuppyhair reblogged this from sirikenobi167 and added:
    That is DISGUSTING. Absolutely DISGUSTING. There is no POSSIBLE way this is okay in the slightest.
  14. sirikenobi167 reblogged this from breakfastcookie and added:
    Scary. Very scary :( Why do people have to be so evil and disgusting?
  15. mooncinders reblogged this from breakfastcookie and added:
    That’s not funny. Rape jokes are inappropriate, upsetting, and insulting. The original “joke” aside, what Tosh said in...
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    This is extremely unnerving that I had to share. I was a huge fan of Daniel Tosh and this has honestly made me feel very...
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