Cognitive Dissonance

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To the shitmonster asking if feminists taking selfies “with perfect angles to hide the rolls” is “hippocriticaly [sic] bowing” to patriarchy:

I just deleted a message I decided I wanted to answer because wine. I deleted four prior from this particular user. However, his gnat-like ravings about selfies tipped the scales.

So here’s the answer to a question I’m not trascribing in its entirety because of its use of homophobic and racist insults towards a woman he identifies by first and last name. Let’s get to the core of this dicknozzle’s multiple “questions” to me over the past three weeks:

You apparently already deactivated your Tumblr, which saddens me. I was going to congratulate you on being the first piece of literal dogshit to learn how to type and navigate the internet after climbing from the primordial ooze of Reddit. Alas, the pressure to perform became too much.

Here’s the answer to your question, fuckwhistle: No.

It’s not hypocritical because in taking a selfie, I am empowering myself and other people who identify as women to put our images out there and control how they appear because in a world that emphasizes we will never be enough, that picture made us feel fabulous. If I got all dolled up, I’m sharing that because I’m goddamn proud. It’s not for your entertainment. I’m taking pride in the way that photo makes me feel.

And are you suggesting that to be feminist is to only post unflattering photos? Or none at all? Because I searched my couch cushions, purses, and pockets and still could not find one single solitary fuck to give about your manchild whines about how we’re “lying” to you with our makeup and flattering Instagram pics. If you’re so batshit deluded that you think I really have ruby red lips, glittery eyelids, and appear only through faux-arty filters named “Amaro” and “Valencia”, that’s not my problem, it’s yours. And your anger about girls who “have pretty pictures but are ugly bitches” is goddamn creepy and smacks of the entitlement you should lose right quick. WE DON’T OWE YOU SHIT, COCKWAGON.

tl;dr — I take selfies for my damn self, and if that irks the fuck out of a whiny wankstain like yourself, that’s just icing on the cake. I’d say kiss my whole butthole, but I don’t want your fedaura within a few hundred feet of me.


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What confuses me is how the UCSB killing spree has made this whole thing revelatory when it should have been something we appreciated as a community all along. Dudes get rejected. It’s part of the process. It’s part of growing up as a man.

Sex is a mutual act that requires two consenting adults. You will be rejected early and often and usually it’s not for any grandiose, particular, extra specific reason: She’s just not into you. It sucks and sometimes it hurts, but when the hell did we get to a point where men are justified murdering people over rejection? Where one man can hear about the inadequacies of other men and vindicate a murderous intention?

A term like ‘involuntary celibate’ is so repulsive and vile and angry in in its implications. It’s delusional and void of personal responsibility.

My pal A.J. drops the goddamn mic on male entitlement, rejection, the defenders of the UCSB shooter, and the fallacy of “involuntary celibate” men.

Filed under tw: ucsb shooting ucsb shooting male entitlement misogyny involuntary celibacy yesallwomen yes all women elliot rodger rejection gender feminism all men can violence tw: violence

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Student's Disturbing Video And Mass Shooting 'Appear Connected': Police

I’d say it’s goddamn connected:

"A disturbing video entitled ‘Elliot Rodger’s Retribution’ was posted to YouTube the day before the shooting. In it, a young man who identifies himself as Elliot Rodger describes his plans to launch an assault targeting women at a sorority house as payback for his life of ‘loneliness, rejection, and unfulfilled desires.’

'I will slaughter every stuck up, blonde slut I see inside there … You will finally see that I am in truth the superior one, the true alpha male,' the young man says in the video. He then describes how he plans to 'take to the streets of Isla Vista and slay every single person.'”

Filed under murder crime misogyny feminism gender male entitlement

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Seven Dead in Drive-By Shooting Near UC Santa Barbara         

The shooter left a YouTube video, which is still up, where he talks of his rejection by women “since puberty” and his desire to punish them for this injustice. He calls himself “a supreme gentlemen” and rants in his BMW about being left a 22-year-old virgin. He talks about how he’s such a nice guy, and that we women throw ourselves at lesser men. And that what happened is the fault of we women — his “revenge against humanity” — because no woman wanted to even date him.

I feel sick. Do not let history be rewritten as him being “crazy” and don’t let the “not all men” crowd hijack this. Yes, most men won’t shoot people because they can’t handle rejection, but HE DID. And his motive is quite clear. This video should be left up as an explanation of the fears we have when a man yells at us and calls us bitches over being friendzoned. When a man follows us outside, after we tell him we’re not interested. When a man makes it clear he is entitled to our bodies. This video is male entitlement at its most terrifying.

Video link — Elliot Rodger’s Retribution

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Casper, Wyo. man accused of starting house fire after failed sexual advances

A man tried to burn down an underage girl’s house because she refused his sexual advances.

Not all men get violent when rejected, BUT SOME DO. Before this is hijacked by the “not all men” crowd, can we please think about this for a minute? This is the much more extreme version of feeling entitled to a woman’s body in some way. The softer, more sinister version is calling women bitches because they refused a drink you bought.

It’s catcalling — which is more aptly titled “street harassment” — and telling women to smile on command. It’s calling women sluts for having sex with men who are not you. It’s whining about the friendzone — you were SO NICE and just can’t understand why she won’t fuck you. YOU WERE NICE DAMMIT!

It’s following women down the street for ignoring you. It’s stabbing a classmate to death because she doesn’t want to go to prom with you.

And it’s trying to burn down a teenage girl’s house because you think you’re entitled to fuck her whether she likes it or not.

Filed under not all men crime casper wyoming violence gender feminism sexism misogyny entitlement

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I just got called a bad feminist for wearing red lipstick. Apparently, it’s inappropriate to want to wear makeup and be a feminist.

Now, I’m sitting here thinking that there’s actual legislative bodies filled with cisgendered straight white men stripping away the rights of others and upholding patriarchal, racist, classist, homophobic, ableist societal institutions, but we’re gonna fight about my goddamn lipstick?

Nope. Take your fauxminist bullshit over to Phyllis Schlafly.


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Rape threats happen. Death threats happen. People threaten friends, families, jobs, household pets. Stalkers go to considerable lengths to collect and exploit information. People who are open about this, who do talk about threats and stalking and danger, and they are out there, are punished for it. They get more abuse, they’re told that they’re making it all up, that it’s all in their heads, that they are exaggerating, entirely new hate sites spring up to speculate about them and talk about their ‘desperate ploys for attention.’ That’s what I have to look forward to for writing this piece, for laying out some of the costs of social participation for you, for openly discussing the thing which dare not speak its name, the brash, open hostility reserved for people who do not shut up.

This is a reality, and it doesn’t go away if we don’t talk about it.

S.E. Smith, "On Blogging, Threats, and Silence" 

If we don’t talk about it, it doesn’t go away. It just finds another target.

So yeah…


Filed under trolling rape culture silence Silence is complicity feminism misogyny racism fear hate

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On Monday, as the remembrances poured in, it was her status as a female trailblazer – as well as, by the way, an often disastrous yet perpetually reelected world leader — that found its way into much of the postmortem conversation. The Telegraph dubbed her “the ultimate feminist icon” while in Slate, Lionel Shriver recalled her “muscular feminism.” It was an unusual assessment of a woman who once said, “I owe nothing to women’s lib. The feminists hate me, don’t they? And I don’t blame them. For I hate feminism. It is poison.” Yet the persistent notion seems to be – sure, she was reviled to such an extent that people wrote songs wishing for her demise, but hey, she got a lot of attention and she was successful in a man’s world, so … partial victory, ladies?

I’m going to go with a “no, thanks” on that one. I felt much the same way in 2008, shuddering when a female friend declared that even if Obama didn’t win, we’d have a woman as a vice president — and isn’t that an advancement for women? (Spoiler: It is not.) Women in leadership who are frighteningly bad leaders are not a win for the team. A lady – any lady, like, say, the one who helped cripple labor unions and led her nation to record-breaking childhood poverty – is not now or ever will be cause for any sentence starting with the phrase, “Say what you will about her but…” something something feminism.
Mary Elizabeth Williams, “Margaret Thatcher, grotesque puppet" on Salon, April 8th, 2013

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To put it simply, I AM TIRED OF TRYING TO EXPLAIN THIS SHIT TO PEOPLE WHO DON’T WANT TO HEAR IT. Especially “jokes” like MacFarlane’s, which, to the layperson’s ear, barely register above microaggressions (if the kind of people who see no problem whatsoever with “We Saw Your Boobs” were the kind of people who used the term “microaggressions”). I am tired of trying to have an intellectual discussion about dog-whistle sexism in a culture where prominent politicians are still trying to grasp what rape is, and in a world where little girls are shot in the head because they want to go to school. Asking people to think critically about some hacky jokes from a dancing cartoonist? You might as well wear a sandwich board that says, “Yell at Me With Bad Grammar.”

I am tired of being called a shrieking harridan for pointing out inequalities so tangible and blatant that they are regularly codified into law. I am tired of being told to provide documentation of inequality in the comments sections of a website where a staff of smart women documents inequality as fast as our fingers can move. Like, you might as well write me a note on a banana peel demanding that I prove to you that bananas exist. I am tired of being asked to “cite sources” proving that sexism is real (that RAPE is real, even!), because there is no way to concisely cite decades and decades of rigorous academia. Allow me to point at the fucking library. We can’t cite “everything,” and our challengers know that. It’s an insulting diversionary tactic, it’s an attempt to drag us all backwards, and fuck it. Do your own research like the rest of the grown-ups.

Lindy West, “Sexism Fatigue: When Seth MacFarlane Is a Complete Ass and You Don’t Even Notice” on Jezebel.


Filed under feminism fatigue sexism Lindy West I am not the Google It is not my job to teach you politics The Oscars Seth MacFarlane

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Andrew and I interviewed Kate Farrar, director of Campus Leadership Programs at the American Association of University Women, on tonight’s edition of Checks and Balances. 

Farrar came from Washington D.C. to conduct the Elect Her conference at UW on Feb. 23. We discussed the importance of women running for office and leadership roles, whether young women consider themselves feminists, AAUW’s mission, and Andrew’s experiences running campaigns and working for female candidates. (at Laramie Civic Center)

Andrew and I interviewed Kate Farrar, director of Campus Leadership Programs at the American Association of University Women, on tonight’s edition of Checks and Balances.

Farrar came from Washington D.C. to conduct the Elect Her conference at UW on Feb. 23. We discussed the importance of women running for office and leadership roles, whether young women consider themselves feminists, AAUW’s mission, and Andrew’s experiences running campaigns and working for female candidates. (at Laramie Civic Center)

Filed under uwyo electher Elect Her university of wyoming women feminism AAUW American Association of University Women Kate Farrar