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I just got called a bad feminist for wearing red lipstick. Apparently, it’s inappropriate to want to wear makeup and be a feminist.

Now, I’m sitting here thinking that there’s actual legislative bodies filled with cisgendered straight white men stripping away the rights of others and upholding patriarchal, racist, classist, homophobic, ableist societal institutions, but we’re gonna fight about my goddamn lipstick?

Nope. Take your fauxminist bullshit over to Phyllis Schlafly.

/rant

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Rape threats happen. Death threats happen. People threaten friends, families, jobs, household pets. Stalkers go to considerable lengths to collect and exploit information. People who are open about this, who do talk about threats and stalking and danger, and they are out there, are punished for it. They get more abuse, they’re told that they’re making it all up, that it’s all in their heads, that they are exaggerating, entirely new hate sites spring up to speculate about them and talk about their ‘desperate ploys for attention.’ That’s what I have to look forward to for writing this piece, for laying out some of the costs of social participation for you, for openly discussing the thing which dare not speak its name, the brash, open hostility reserved for people who do not shut up.

This is a reality, and it doesn’t go away if we don’t talk about it.

S.E. Smith, "On Blogging, Threats, and Silence" 

If we don’t talk about it, it doesn’t go away. It just finds another target.

So yeah…

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On Monday, as the remembrances poured in, it was her status as a female trailblazer – as well as, by the way, an often disastrous yet perpetually reelected world leader — that found its way into much of the postmortem conversation. The Telegraph dubbed her “the ultimate feminist icon” while in Slate, Lionel Shriver recalled her “muscular feminism.” It was an unusual assessment of a woman who once said, “I owe nothing to women’s lib. The feminists hate me, don’t they? And I don’t blame them. For I hate feminism. It is poison.” Yet the persistent notion seems to be – sure, she was reviled to such an extent that people wrote songs wishing for her demise, but hey, she got a lot of attention and she was successful in a man’s world, so … partial victory, ladies?

I’m going to go with a “no, thanks” on that one. I felt much the same way in 2008, shuddering when a female friend declared that even if Obama didn’t win, we’d have a woman as a vice president — and isn’t that an advancement for women? (Spoiler: It is not.) Women in leadership who are frighteningly bad leaders are not a win for the team. A lady – any lady, like, say, the one who helped cripple labor unions and led her nation to record-breaking childhood poverty – is not now or ever will be cause for any sentence starting with the phrase, “Say what you will about her but…” something something feminism.
Mary Elizabeth Williams, “Margaret Thatcher, grotesque puppet" on Salon, April 8th, 2013

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To put it simply, I AM TIRED OF TRYING TO EXPLAIN THIS SHIT TO PEOPLE WHO DON’T WANT TO HEAR IT. Especially “jokes” like MacFarlane’s, which, to the layperson’s ear, barely register above microaggressions (if the kind of people who see no problem whatsoever with “We Saw Your Boobs” were the kind of people who used the term “microaggressions”). I am tired of trying to have an intellectual discussion about dog-whistle sexism in a culture where prominent politicians are still trying to grasp what rape is, and in a world where little girls are shot in the head because they want to go to school. Asking people to think critically about some hacky jokes from a dancing cartoonist? You might as well wear a sandwich board that says, “Yell at Me With Bad Grammar.”

I am tired of being called a shrieking harridan for pointing out inequalities so tangible and blatant that they are regularly codified into law. I am tired of being told to provide documentation of inequality in the comments sections of a website where a staff of smart women documents inequality as fast as our fingers can move. Like, you might as well write me a note on a banana peel demanding that I prove to you that bananas exist. I am tired of being asked to “cite sources” proving that sexism is real (that RAPE is real, even!), because there is no way to concisely cite decades and decades of rigorous academia. Allow me to point at the fucking library. We can’t cite “everything,” and our challengers know that. It’s an insulting diversionary tactic, it’s an attempt to drag us all backwards, and fuck it. Do your own research like the rest of the grown-ups.

Lindy West, “Sexism Fatigue: When Seth MacFarlane Is a Complete Ass and You Don’t Even Notice” on Jezebel.

PREACH!

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Andrew and I interviewed Kate Farrar, director of Campus Leadership Programs at the American Association of University Women, on tonight’s edition of Checks and Balances. 

Farrar came from Washington D.C. to conduct the Elect Her conference at UW on Feb. 23. We discussed the importance of women running for office and leadership roles, whether young women consider themselves feminists, AAUW’s mission, and Andrew’s experiences running campaigns and working for female candidates. (at Laramie Civic Center)

Andrew and I interviewed Kate Farrar, director of Campus Leadership Programs at the American Association of University Women, on tonight’s edition of Checks and Balances.

Farrar came from Washington D.C. to conduct the Elect Her conference at UW on Feb. 23. We discussed the importance of women running for office and leadership roles, whether young women consider themselves feminists, AAUW’s mission, and Andrew’s experiences running campaigns and working for female candidates. (at Laramie Civic Center)

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Feminist snark from 1915, courtesy of Roqayah Chamseddine on Twitter. Anna Breslaw of Jezebel writes:

FYI: [Alice] Duer Miller was a poet, writer and Barnard College alum whose name appears in the first-ever issue of the New Yorker as an advisory editor. I haven’t even put pants on today.

Alice Duer Miller wrote biting poems about a “woman’s place” in the early 1900s. A collection of her poems, titled Are Women People?, is available for free on the Project Gutenberg website. They’re just as relevant today as they were nearly a century ago. Let that sink in for a moment. I’ll post three here:

The Revolt of Mother
(“Every true woman feels — ”—Speech of almost any Congressman.)


I am old-fashioned, and I think it rightThat man should know, by Nature’s laws eternal,The proper way to rule, to earn, to fight,And exercise those functions called paternal;But even I a little bit rebelAt finding that he knows my job as well.
At least he’s always ready to expound it,Especially in legislative hall,The joys, the cares, the halos that surround it,"How women feel"—he knows that best of all.In fact his thesis is that no one canKnow what is womanly except a man.
I am old-fashioned, and I am contentWhen he explains the world of art and scienceAnd government—to him divinely sent—I drink it in with ladylike compliance.But cannot listen—no, I’m only human—While he instructs me how to be a woman.
— Alice Duer Miller
Feminism


"Mother, what is a Feminist?"
"A Feminist, my daughter,
Is any woman now who cares
To think about her own affairs
As men don’t think she oughter.”
— Alice Duer Miller
Why We Oppose Pockets for Women
1. Because pockets are not a natural right.
2. Because the great majority of women do not want pockets. If they did they would have them.
3. Because whenever women have had pockets they have not used them.
4. Because women are required to carry enough things as it is, without the additional burden of pockets.
5. Because it would make dissension between husband and wife as to whose pockets were to be filled.
6. Because it would destroy man’s chivalry toward woman, if he did not have to carry all her things in his pockets.
7. Because men are men, and women are women. We must not fly in the face of nature.
8. Because pockets have been used by men to carry tobacco, pipes, whiskey flasks, chewing gum and compromising letters. We see no reason to suppose that women would use them more wisely.
— Alice Duer Miller

Feminist snark from 1915, courtesy of Roqayah Chamseddine on Twitter. Anna Breslaw of Jezebel writes:

FYI: [Alice] Duer Miller was a poet, writer and Barnard College alum whose name appears in the first-ever issue of the New Yorker as an advisory editor. I haven’t even put pants on today.

Alice Duer Miller wrote biting poems about a “woman’s place” in the early 1900s. A collection of her poems, titled Are Women People?, is available for free on the Project Gutenberg website. They’re just as relevant today as they were nearly a century ago. Let that sink in for a moment. I’ll post three here:

The Revolt of Mother

(“Every true woman feels — ”—Speech of almost any Congressman.)

I am old-fashioned, and I think it right
That man should know, by Nature’s laws eternal,
The proper way to rule, to earn, to fight,
And exercise those functions called paternal;
But even I a little bit rebel
At finding that he knows my job as well.

At least he’s always ready to expound it,
Especially in legislative hall,
The joys, the cares, the halos that surround it,
"How women feel"—he knows that best of all.
In fact his thesis is that no one can
Know what is womanly except a man.

I am old-fashioned, and I am content
When he explains the world of art and science
And government—to him divinely sent—
I drink it in with ladylike compliance.
But cannot listen—no, I’m only human—
While he instructs me how to be a woman.

— Alice Duer Miller

Feminism

"Mother, what is a Feminist?"

"A Feminist, my daughter,

Is any woman now who cares

To think about her own affairs

As men don’t think she oughter.”

— Alice Duer Miller

Why We Oppose Pockets for Women

1. Because pockets are not a natural right.

2. Because the great majority of women do not want pockets. If they did they would have them.

3. Because whenever women have had pockets they have not used them.

4. Because women are required to carry enough things as it is, without the additional burden of pockets.

5. Because it would make dissension between husband and wife as to whose pockets were to be filled.

6. Because it would destroy man’s chivalry toward woman, if he did not have to carry all her things in his pockets.

7. Because men are men, and women are women. We must not fly in the face of nature.

8. Because pockets have been used by men to carry tobacco, pipes, whiskey flasks, chewing gum and compromising letters. We see no reason to suppose that women would use them more wisely.

— Alice Duer Miller

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Discussing women and scientific achievement with a pal of mine, when suddenly — INTERRUPTING MRA!

MRA: I’m sorry, but I couldn’t help but overhear — are you really suggesting that men haven’t contributed anything to science?

Me: No, I’m suggesting a lot of women’s achievements were usurped or overlooked and my friend is agreeing with me.

MRA: Well, without men, there would have been no one to teach science to women. When will there be conferences dedicated to just celebrating their achievements? Or a men’s history month? Frankly, I think men are under recognized because of the search to always recognize a woman in anything.

Me: Sorry our conversation isn’t celebrating the tyranny of the patriarchal cock. Is there something more acceptable you’d like us to talk about, besides, you know, my friend’s thesis?

MRA: Tyranny of the cock? What are you, a lesbo? *walks off, shaking his head*

My pal: What…. the… hell… Has that guy never, ever read a science or history textbook? Holy shit… like every month is men’s history month, and EVERY conference I’ve been to is celebrating men in science the majority of the time. Is he for real?

Me: Yes. These people exist.

My pal: I’d heard legends of this Reddit tribe… maybe I should get out of biology and into anthropology.

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