Cognitive Dissonance

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To the shitmonster asking if feminists taking selfies “with perfect angles to hide the rolls” is “hippocriticaly [sic] bowing” to patriarchy:

I just deleted a message I decided I wanted to answer because wine. I deleted four prior from this particular user. However, his gnat-like ravings about selfies tipped the scales.

So here’s the answer to a question I’m not trascribing in its entirety because of its use of homophobic and racist insults towards a woman he identifies by first and last name. Let’s get to the core of this dicknozzle’s multiple “questions” to me over the past three weeks:

You apparently already deactivated your Tumblr, which saddens me. I was going to congratulate you on being the first piece of literal dogshit to learn how to type and navigate the internet after climbing from the primordial ooze of Reddit. Alas, the pressure to perform became too much.

Here’s the answer to your question, fuckwhistle: No.

It’s not hypocritical because in taking a selfie, I am empowering myself and other people who identify as women to put our images out there and control how they appear because in a world that emphasizes we will never be enough, that picture made us feel fabulous. If I got all dolled up, I’m sharing that because I’m goddamn proud. It’s not for your entertainment. I’m taking pride in the way that photo makes me feel.

And are you suggesting that to be feminist is to only post unflattering photos? Or none at all? Because I searched my couch cushions, purses, and pockets and still could not find one single solitary fuck to give about your manchild whines about how we’re “lying” to you with our makeup and flattering Instagram pics. If you’re so batshit deluded that you think I really have ruby red lips, glittery eyelids, and appear only through faux-arty filters named “Amaro” and “Valencia”, that’s not my problem, it’s yours. And your anger about girls who “have pretty pictures but are ugly bitches” is goddamn creepy and smacks of the entitlement you should lose right quick. WE DON’T OWE YOU SHIT, COCKWAGON.

tl;dr — I take selfies for my damn self, and if that irks the fuck out of a whiny wankstain like yourself, that’s just icing on the cake. I’d say kiss my whole butthole, but I don’t want your fedaura within a few hundred feet of me.

Cheers,
Meg

Filed under selfie feminism politics rant ask gender drunkblr

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What confuses me is how the UCSB killing spree has made this whole thing revelatory when it should have been something we appreciated as a community all along. Dudes get rejected. It’s part of the process. It’s part of growing up as a man.

Sex is a mutual act that requires two consenting adults. You will be rejected early and often and usually it’s not for any grandiose, particular, extra specific reason: She’s just not into you. It sucks and sometimes it hurts, but when the hell did we get to a point where men are justified murdering people over rejection? Where one man can hear about the inadequacies of other men and vindicate a murderous intention?

A term like ‘involuntary celibate’ is so repulsive and vile and angry in in its implications. It’s delusional and void of personal responsibility.

My pal A.J. drops the goddamn mic on male entitlement, rejection, the defenders of the UCSB shooter, and the fallacy of “involuntary celibate” men.

Filed under tw: ucsb shooting ucsb shooting male entitlement misogyny involuntary celibacy yesallwomen yes all women elliot rodger rejection gender feminism all men can violence tw: violence

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Gender violence has occurred with such frequency for so long in this country that many people are no longer alarmed by how common it is. It is the status quo, an unremarkable feature of the social landscape.

What is perhaps even more disturbing is that in this culture, many people see gender violence as a problem of sick or damaged individuals, and not as a social phenomenon that’s causes—and solutions—lie in much larger social forces. So let me be clear. There is no such thing as an isolated incident of rape, battering, sexual abuse, or sexual harassment. These are not merely individual pathologies. It is not enough for us to ask in each case: “What went wrong in his life?” “Why would he do something like that?” These problems are much too widespread for us to think about them in such narrow terms.
Jackson Katz, Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and and How All Men Can Help (via wretchedoftheearth)

(via feigenbaumsworld)

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Student's Disturbing Video And Mass Shooting 'Appear Connected': Police

I’d say it’s goddamn connected:

"A disturbing video entitled ‘Elliot Rodger’s Retribution’ was posted to YouTube the day before the shooting. In it, a young man who identifies himself as Elliot Rodger describes his plans to launch an assault targeting women at a sorority house as payback for his life of ‘loneliness, rejection, and unfulfilled desires.’

'I will slaughter every stuck up, blonde slut I see inside there … You will finally see that I am in truth the superior one, the true alpha male,' the young man says in the video. He then describes how he plans to 'take to the streets of Isla Vista and slay every single person.'”

Filed under murder crime misogyny feminism gender male entitlement

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Seven Dead in Drive-By Shooting Near UC Santa Barbara         

The shooter left a YouTube video, which is still up, where he talks of his rejection by women “since puberty” and his desire to punish them for this injustice. He calls himself “a supreme gentlemen” and rants in his BMW about being left a 22-year-old virgin. He talks about how he’s such a nice guy, and that we women throw ourselves at lesser men. And that what happened is the fault of we women — his “revenge against humanity” — because no woman wanted to even date him.

I feel sick. Do not let history be rewritten as him being “crazy” and don’t let the “not all men” crowd hijack this. Yes, most men won’t shoot people because they can’t handle rejection, but HE DID. And his motive is quite clear. This video should be left up as an explanation of the fears we have when a man yells at us and calls us bitches over being friendzoned. When a man follows us outside, after we tell him we’re not interested. When a man makes it clear he is entitled to our bodies. This video is male entitlement at its most terrifying.

Video link — Elliot Rodger’s Retribution

Filed under misogyny violence feminism california crime mass shooting male entitlement isla vista gender

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Casper, Wyo. man accused of starting house fire after failed sexual advances

A man tried to burn down an underage girl’s house because she refused his sexual advances.

Not all men get violent when rejected, BUT SOME DO. Before this is hijacked by the “not all men” crowd, can we please think about this for a minute? This is the much more extreme version of feeling entitled to a woman’s body in some way. The softer, more sinister version is calling women bitches because they refused a drink you bought.

It’s catcalling — which is more aptly titled “street harassment” — and telling women to smile on command. It’s calling women sluts for having sex with men who are not you. It’s whining about the friendzone — you were SO NICE and just can’t understand why she won’t fuck you. YOU WERE NICE DAMMIT!

It’s following women down the street for ignoring you. It’s stabbing a classmate to death because she doesn’t want to go to prom with you.

And it’s trying to burn down a teenage girl’s house because you think you’re entitled to fuck her whether she likes it or not.

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facebooksexism:

annastit:

apersnicketylemon:

howprolifeofyou:

prolifepublicshaming:

Only pregnant women seek abortions. Gender reassignment doesn’t include a uterus at this point in scientific discovery.
My blog, my rules.
No uterus = no opinion.
If you’re going to take a page that was meant to be funny and make it all technical and shit, find another sandbox to play in. Jesus titty fucking Christ. Nobody is phobic about a motherfucking thing. In the quest for simplicity, I use the generic term “woman”, because frankly, this sucks enough of my time as is. *eyeroll*

yes, because typing the phrase “pregnant person” is SO much more difficult than typing “woman.” it’s really not that hard to be inclusive. but if you want to be a jerk about it I’ll just block you to keep from seeing your transphobic ass in the abortion tag anymore. 

It’s all well and good to make fun of pro lifers, but you specifically seem to assume that trans* men need to have a uterus transplanted. Trans men are men who were born with a uterus. They are affected by abortion laws.
Non binary folk can be born with a uterus too.
I have a uterus, I get a say by your own words and I am not a woman.
By refusing to change your language to include trans and NB folk who have a uterus like myself you ARE transphobic. By trying to deny the transphobia when you are being called out on it makes you as bad as men who say ‘I’m not sexist for thinking a woman’s place is in the kitchen!’.
Accept that you made a transphobic statement especially just now, attempted to defend the transphobic comment, apologise for the cissexism, alter your behaviour to be inclusive and less transphobic and move on. People will like you better and you grow as a person.

Just to chime in: I work for NARAL and we do advocate for all people who have uteri. We do lots of work with LGBTQ communities and recognize that abortion and repo health care is an intersectional issue that impacts many different people in different ways. Not everyone we advocate for is a white woman, and we try to make that known.Although many of our social media posts do include gendered language, it’s something we’re working on and we’re also doing what we can to impact legislation in ways that include all people with uteri.

Wanted to share more on this^^

It’s really not hard to say pregnant person. “Person” is just one more letter longer so it’s not like it’s incredibly arduous to type.This is bullshit, and I’m disappointed to see it. Anyone can be affected by abortion rights restrictions, not just cis straight women with uteruses. I’m uncomfortable with some of the things I’ve seen from prolifepublicshaming, but namely (until now) it’s the publishing of criminal records unconnected to anti-choicers’ activism and/or cause — even if it is detestable. Shame them for trying to rip away reproductive rights, not for bouncing a check years ago. Now, if said anti-choice charmer has a record for say, attacking clinics or staff, that’s a different story. I believe these people MUST be called out for those actions, along with their persistent dissemination of misinformation.However, seeing both sides of the bars doesn’t necessarily make you a bad person, it makes you a person who was jailed for allegedly doing a bad thing. And a pregnancy doesn’t make you a woman, it makes you a person who is pregnant./rant

facebooksexism:

annastit:

apersnicketylemon:

howprolifeofyou:

prolifepublicshaming:

Only pregnant women seek abortions. Gender reassignment doesn’t include a uterus at this point in scientific discovery.

My blog, my rules.

No uterus = no opinion.

If you’re going to take a page that was meant to be funny and make it all technical and shit, find another sandbox to play in. Jesus titty fucking Christ. Nobody is phobic about a motherfucking thing. In the quest for simplicity, I use the generic term “woman”, because frankly, this sucks enough of my time as is. *eyeroll*

yes, because typing the phrase “pregnant person” is SO much more difficult than typing “woman.” it’s really not that hard to be inclusive. but if you want to be a jerk about it I’ll just block you to keep from seeing your transphobic ass in the abortion tag anymore. 

It’s all well and good to make fun of pro lifers, but you specifically seem to assume that trans* men need to have a uterus transplanted. Trans men are men who were born with a uterus. They are affected by abortion laws.

Non binary folk can be born with a uterus too.

I have a uterus, I get a say by your own words and I am not a woman.

By refusing to change your language to include trans and NB folk who have a uterus like myself you ARE transphobic. By trying to deny the transphobia when you are being called out on it makes you as bad as men who say ‘I’m not sexist for thinking a woman’s place is in the kitchen!’.

Accept that you made a transphobic statement especially just now, attempted to defend the transphobic comment, apologise for the cissexism, alter your behaviour to be inclusive and less transphobic and move on. People will like you better and you grow as a person.

Just to chime in: I work for NARAL and we do advocate for all people who have uteri. We do lots of work with LGBTQ communities and recognize that abortion and repo health care is an intersectional issue that impacts many different people in different ways. Not everyone we advocate for is a white woman, and we try to make that known.

Although many of our social media posts do include gendered language, it’s something we’re working on and we’re also doing what we can to impact legislation in ways that include all people with uteri.

Wanted to share more on this^^

It’s really not hard to say pregnant person. “Person” is just one more letter longer so it’s not like it’s incredibly arduous to type.

This is bullshit, and I’m disappointed to see it. Anyone can be affected by abortion rights restrictions, not just cis straight women with uteruses.

I’m uncomfortable with some of the things I’ve seen from prolifepublicshaming, but namely (until now) it’s the publishing of criminal records unconnected to anti-choicers’ activism and/or cause — even if it is detestable. Shame them for trying to rip away reproductive rights, not for bouncing a check years ago. Now, if said anti-choice charmer has a record for say, attacking clinics or staff, that’s a different story. I believe these people MUST be called out for those actions, along with their persistent dissemination of misinformation.

However, seeing both sides of the bars doesn’t necessarily make you a bad person, it makes you a person who was jailed for allegedly doing a bad thing.

And a pregnancy doesn’t make you a woman, it makes you a person who is pregnant.

/rant

Filed under gender reproductive rights

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Dr. Phil Clarifies: He Was Just ASKING If You'd Bang a Drunk Girl

And then his apology the show’s apology, is delivered in a stilted, third-person fashion. Of course. 

Because it’s totally not offensive if you use the JEEZ, I WAS JUST ASKING defense. Not at all. </sarcasm>

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Is this real life? From the author, Theo Nicole Lorenz:

This body-positive coloring book features 18 pages of fat sci-fi heroines doing what they do best: trekking across the time and space, blasting off into adventure, and saving the day. Among our intrepid heroines are a rocketeer, a superhero, time travelers of both steampunk and madman-with-a-box varieties, the captain of a space pirate ship, members of spaceship crews tasked with exploring the unexplored, an RPG heroine with a badass bike, and many more.
Because there’s a whole universe of body types out there, and they all deserve to be represented.

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Is this real life? From the author, Theo Nicole Lorenz:

This body-positive coloring book features 18 pages of fat sci-fi heroines doing what they do best: trekking across the time and space, blasting off into adventure, and saving the day. Among our intrepid heroines are a rocketeer, a superhero, time travelers of both steampunk and madman-with-a-box varieties, the captain of a space pirate ship, members of spaceship crews tasked with exploring the unexplored, an RPG heroine with a badass bike, and many more.

Because there’s a whole universe of body types out there, and they all deserve to be represented.

I…

I… love… this!

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Get it here!

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