Cognitive Dissonance

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What confuses me is how the UCSB killing spree has made this whole thing revelatory when it should have been something we appreciated as a community all along. Dudes get rejected. It’s part of the process. It’s part of growing up as a man.

Sex is a mutual act that requires two consenting adults. You will be rejected early and often and usually it’s not for any grandiose, particular, extra specific reason: She’s just not into you. It sucks and sometimes it hurts, but when the hell did we get to a point where men are justified murdering people over rejection? Where one man can hear about the inadequacies of other men and vindicate a murderous intention?

A term like ‘involuntary celibate’ is so repulsive and vile and angry in in its implications. It’s delusional and void of personal responsibility.

My pal A.J. drops the goddamn mic on male entitlement, rejection, the defenders of the UCSB shooter, and the fallacy of “involuntary celibate” men.

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Gender violence has occurred with such frequency for so long in this country that many people are no longer alarmed by how common it is. It is the status quo, an unremarkable feature of the social landscape.

What is perhaps even more disturbing is that in this culture, many people see gender violence as a problem of sick or damaged individuals, and not as a social phenomenon that’s causes—and solutions—lie in much larger social forces. So let me be clear. There is no such thing as an isolated incident of rape, battering, sexual abuse, or sexual harassment. These are not merely individual pathologies. It is not enough for us to ask in each case: “What went wrong in his life?” “Why would he do something like that?” These problems are much too widespread for us to think about them in such narrow terms.
Jackson Katz, Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and and How All Men Can Help (via wretchedoftheearth)

(via feigenbaumsworld)

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Student's Disturbing Video And Mass Shooting 'Appear Connected': Police

I’d say it’s goddamn connected:

"A disturbing video entitled ‘Elliot Rodger’s Retribution’ was posted to YouTube the day before the shooting. In it, a young man who identifies himself as Elliot Rodger describes his plans to launch an assault targeting women at a sorority house as payback for his life of ‘loneliness, rejection, and unfulfilled desires.’

'I will slaughter every stuck up, blonde slut I see inside there … You will finally see that I am in truth the superior one, the true alpha male,' the young man says in the video. He then describes how he plans to 'take to the streets of Isla Vista and slay every single person.'”

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Seven Dead in Drive-By Shooting Near UC Santa Barbara         

The shooter left a YouTube video, which is still up, where he talks of his rejection by women “since puberty” and his desire to punish them for this injustice. He calls himself “a supreme gentlemen” and rants in his BMW about being left a 22-year-old virgin. He talks about how he’s such a nice guy, and that we women throw ourselves at lesser men. And that what happened is the fault of we women — his “revenge against humanity” — because no woman wanted to even date him.

I feel sick. Do not let history be rewritten as him being “crazy” and don’t let the “not all men” crowd hijack this. Yes, most men won’t shoot people because they can’t handle rejection, but HE DID. And his motive is quite clear. This video should be left up as an explanation of the fears we have when a man yells at us and calls us bitches over being friendzoned. When a man follows us outside, after we tell him we’re not interested. When a man makes it clear he is entitled to our bodies. This video is male entitlement at its most terrifying.

Video link — Elliot Rodger’s Retribution

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Casper, Wyo. man accused of starting house fire after failed sexual advances

A man tried to burn down an underage girl’s house because she refused his sexual advances.

Not all men get violent when rejected, BUT SOME DO. Before this is hijacked by the “not all men” crowd, can we please think about this for a minute? This is the much more extreme version of feeling entitled to a woman’s body in some way. The softer, more sinister version is calling women bitches because they refused a drink you bought.

It’s catcalling — which is more aptly titled “street harassment” — and telling women to smile on command. It’s calling women sluts for having sex with men who are not you. It’s whining about the friendzone — you were SO NICE and just can’t understand why she won’t fuck you. YOU WERE NICE DAMMIT!

It’s following women down the street for ignoring you. It’s stabbing a classmate to death because she doesn’t want to go to prom with you.

And it’s trying to burn down a teenage girl’s house because you think you’re entitled to fuck her whether she likes it or not.

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On trolls and their grossness

Sometimes you wish you could just flat out punch trolls in the face. Some dude just reblogged a link from my site about the sexualization of middle school girls by Dr. Keith Ablow (a quack psychologist on Fox News) and his rants about girls in leggings, and this wankstain came along and said not only are these girls asking for it, by wearing clothes like that he interprets that as consent.

He’s talking about girls who are eleven and twelve. He says he has the right to teach them the consequences of wearing such clothing. This is a young guy not only agreeing with Ablow, but taking it further. I’ve mixed it up with this troll before but I let it go. Doing that again in part because I don’t want to give him page views. I’m pretty sure that he’s saying this stuff to get a rise out of others. And then it creeps into my mind, “What if he isn’t?”

I feel like I need a shower. /rant

ETA: After I typed this, I went to screencap the bit and he’s scaled it back the tiniest amount to say that by wearing such clothes “people” deserve what they get and then tagged it “sluts” and “asking for it” — THESE ARE MIDDLE SCHOOL GIRLS, YOU SICK FUCK.

I’m using Do Not Link here to share the specific post: http://www.donotlink.com/itZ

His Facebook, because he is saying with his post that middle school girls are asking for rape, and that’s more than a little troubling: http://www.donotlink.com/it1

I reported him and I encourage you to as well. His site is full of Islamophobic and misogynistic content.

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This is how one University of North Dakota student is handling being called out as a racist. His cover photo is a man in a headdress with the caption “Feel Honored” and he’s busy telling Native Americans to “go cry about it over firewater” while threatening to sue a fellow Native American student for defamation because she called him racist.

Real cute. 

You. Are. A. Racist. Misogynistic. Twit. Sue me, you crusty wankstain.Signal boost this shit. Harassing Native and non-Native women for calling you out rightfully is especially deplorable.

This is how one University of North Dakota student is handling being called out as a racist. His cover photo is a man in a headdress with the caption “Feel Honored” and he’s busy telling Native Americans to “go cry about it over firewater” while threatening to sue a fellow Native American student for defamation because she called him racist.

Real cute.

You. Are. A. Racist. Misogynistic. Twit. Sue me, you crusty wankstain.

Signal boost this shit. Harassing Native and non-Native women for calling you out rightfully is especially deplorable.

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This is what I get in reply to answering this ask.
No, actually YOU’RE everything that is destroying America. Classism, racism, violent misogyny, all in one quite angry, hate-filled package. 
Guess what? I regret nothing about doing what I have to stay healthy, even if it means accepting benefits from a system we all pay into. 
And like the slime you are, you’ve already oozed back into whatever hellhole birthed you, and deleted your tumblr. No worries. I jacked the URL, just in case it had some kind of special meaning for you. It’s now a private blog called “Land Scum”. Think of a new URL, and I’ll still be here when you resurface. 
Cheers!

This is what I get in reply to answering this ask.

No, actually YOU’RE everything that is destroying America. Classism, racism, violent misogyny, all in one quite angry, hate-filled package. 

Guess what? I regret nothing about doing what I have to stay healthy, even if it means accepting benefits from a system we all pay into. 

And like the slime you are, you’ve already oozed back into whatever hellhole birthed you, and deleted your tumblr. No worries. I jacked the URL, just in case it had some kind of special meaning for you. It’s now a private blog called “Land Scum”. Think of a new URL, and I’ll still be here when you resurface. 

Cheers!

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