Posts tagged sex
Posts tagged sex
(source - http://www.transactivisty.com/2012/06/trans-feminist-deconstruction-sex-gender-constructs-part-2/)
For those who still don’t get the whole fluidity of gender, gender spectrum, etc…
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This just came up on my FB feed because an acquaintance “liked” it. My head just about exploded.
I suppose I’m not terribly surprised, since the image was posted by an account called “Catholic Church” (their info states: ‘This is not an official page approved by the Catholic Church. It is a lay initiative and has no approval from any Ecclesiastical Authority.”), and links to uCatholic (motto: “Catholic Traditions in the Modern World”.
I’m not even surprised that the acquaintance “liked” the image, since she’s a devout LDS, married with three kids.
I really don’t care about someone else’s religious belief, or sense of morality.
What has me raging, however, is the blatant misinformation…the generalization…and the projection of one group’s sense of morality onto others.
Not only is this a slap in the face to those who don’t want to get married or can’t get married , but it’s an incredibly dangerous assertion when you consider the truth about HIV and other STIs.
I’m sorry (not really), but a ring on your finger and a signed marriage license aren’t going to protect your health.
Fidelity won’t necessarily protect your health.
Sex is not the only way that HIV is transmitted…and the idea that marriage and/or fidelity equates “safe” sex is just one of many myths that has allowed for the rapid spread of HIV infection, particularly among couples in sub-Saharan Africa. In fact, about one out of every ten couples living in Kenya has at least one partner who is HIV+. Among married people who are living with HIV, 45% have a partner who is uninfected.
According to Population Action International:“In a study of five African countries, two thirds of HIV-infected couples are serodiscordant (one partner is HIV-negative, while the other is HIV-positive).
In Rwanda and Zambia, it is estimated that over half of new infections occur within marriage or in cohabitating relationships, and just under half in Uganda.
While risk of transmission in discordant couples can be drastically reduced, this can only happen when partners are tested, disclose their results, and use condoms. “
There’s really nothing righteous about lying and promoting ignorance. This sort of bullshit “wishful thinking” is killing people. It’s beyond infuriating. It’s despicable.
Rebloggable by request:
I’m visiting my dad and he’s insisting Obama starting the federal funding of Planned Parenthood. Help!
Anonymous
Meg at Cognitive Dissonance:
Nope. Thank this guy:

That would be Richard Milhous Nixon, the 37th President of the United States. Planned Parenthood’s federal funding was started by Nixon under Title X. Here’s his statement on it:
“I called for a national commitment to provide adequate family planning services within the next 5 years to all those who want them but cannot afford them. It was clear that the domestic family planning services supported by the Federal Government were not adequate to provide information and services to all who want them on a voluntary basis.
To implement this national commitment, I asked for expanded research in contraceptive development and the behavioral sciences, reorganization of family planning service activities within the Department of Health, Education, and Welfare, and legislation which would help the Department to implement this important program by providing broader and more precise legislative authority and a clearer source of financial support. The National Center for Family Planning Services was established in the Department of Health, Education, and Welfare shortly after my message.
The bill before me today, the “Family Planning Services and Population Research Act of 1970,” completes the legislation I requested in my message on population. This measure provides for expanded research, training of manpower, and increased family planning services. In addition, it provides for the development of family planning and population growth information and education.
It is noteworthy that this landmark legislation on family planning and population has had strong bipartisan support.”
See, back in the day, the Republican Party was much less against contraception and family planning than they are now. Let me repeat that: Republicans in 1970 were more supportive of welfare, contraception, and access to both than they are now. Tell your dad “citation needed, bro.”
Bonus points! Here’s why public funding of contraception is important from the nonpartisan Guttmacher Institute:
• Publicly funded family planning services help women to avoid pregnancies they do not want and to plan pregnancies they do. In 2006, these services helped women avoid 1.94 million unintended pregnancies, which would likely have resulted in about 860,000 unintended births and 810,000 abortions.
• Contraceptive services provided at publicly funded clinics helped prevent 1.48 million of these unintended pregnancies; the remaining 450,000 unintended pregnancies were prevented among Medicaid enrollees who received publicly funded contraceptive services from private physicians.
• Without publicly funded family planning services, the number of unintended pregnancies and abortions occurring in the United States would be nearly two-thirds higher among women overall and among teens; the number of unintended pregnancies among poor women would nearly double.
• Contraceptive services provided at Title X-supported centers helped prevent 973,000 unintended pregnancies in 2008, which would likely have resulted in 432,600 unintended births and 406,200 abortions.
• The services provided at publicly funded clinics saved the federal and state governments an estimated $5.1 billion in 2008; services provided at Title X–supported clinics accounted for $3.4 billion of that total.
• In other words, nationally, every $1.00 invested in helping women avoid pregnancies they did not want to have saved $3.74 in Medicaid expenditures that otherwise would have been needed.
Success!

Tell your dad to email me. He sounds interesting.
Cheers,
Meg
One of the things I will talk about that no president has talked about before is the dangers of contraception in this country, the whole sexual libertine idea… It’s not okay because it’s a license to do things in the sexual realm that is counter to how things are supposed to be. They’re supposed to be within marriage, for purposes that are, yes, conjugal… but also procreative.
That’s the perfect way that a sexual union should happen. We take any part of that out, we diminish the act… And all of a sudden, it becomes deconstructed to the point where it’s simply pleasure. And that’s certainly a part of it—and it’s an important part of it, don’t get me wrong—but there’s a lot of things we do for pleasure, and this is special, and it needs to be seen as special. Again, I know most presidents don’t talk about those things, and maybe people don’t want us to talk about those things, but I think it’s important that you are who you are… I’m not running for pastor, but these are important public policy issues.
Rick Santorum, giving an odd interview back in October to CaffeinatedThoughts.com
Ahem. An open letter to Rick Santorum:
Dear Rick,
I can call you Rick, right? You seem to want to get to know me on an awfully personal level. Well, I have something to say about that: Please get the hell out of my vagina. I did not invite you up in there. Nor did I invite you to poke around my uterus and ovaries, or anywhere else in my bathing suit area.
I think it’s important that people “are who they are” too, which is why I don’t care what two (or more) consenting adults want to do to get freaky. I don’t care if you and Karen do it twice a year with the lights out, socks on, and magic sweater vest flung on the floor. I don’t care if you have a secret furry fetish involving My Little Pony and jars of marshmallow fluff.
I. DON’T. CARE. ABOUT. YOUR. SEX. LIFE. Is that clear?
In exchange, it would be super cool if you stopped giving a fuck about mine. It’s getting creepy. You look out from the TV screen like we’re just pals, chatting about “intimacy” and making sure I’m barefoot, pregnant, and making men sandwiches because Jesus said reasons.
Let’s get one thing straight, mmmkay?

Go have some sex for pleasure, Rick. I bet you’ll have fun, Karen will be shocked, and your litter o’ kidlets will wonder if daddy and mommy are demonically possessed because they’ve NEVER heard those kinds of noises.
Cheers,
Meg
(Source: cognitivedissonance)
First, masturbation can be a form of homosexuality because it is a sexual act that does not involve a woman. If a man were to masturbate while engaged in other forms of sexual intimacy with his wife then he would not be doing so in a homosexual way. However, any man who does so without his wife in the room is bordering on homosexual activity, particularly if he’s watching himself in a mirror and being turned on by his own male body.
Mark Driscoll, “Pastor” of the Mars Hill Church in Seattle, claiming men need to stop masturbating because it’s a kind of homosexuality. Driscoll also authored a booklet entitled Porn-Again Christian: A Frank Discussion on Pornography & Masturbation for God’s Men.
This is what immediately came to mind:

Yes, that’s James Franco making out with himself. Oh, and this:
In order to clear up any confusion for Driscoll, here’s the Merriam-Webster definition of homosexual:
ho·mo·sex·u·al adj
\ˌhō-mə-ˈsek-sh(ə-)wəl, -ˈsek-shəl\
Definition of HOMOSEXUAL
1: of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward another of the same sex
2: of, relating to, or involving sexual intercourse between persons of the same sex
Nothing in there regarding sex with yourself, I promise. Oddly enough, he says nothing about women, lesbianism, female masturbation, etc. I just don’t know what to say about this - it’s so ridiculous.
DON’T TOUCH YERSELF, BOYS! IT’S GONNA MAKE YOU A HOMOSEXUAL!
Yeah, okay. Oh, and “Pastor” is in quotations marks because reason, dude. You’ve got none.
(Source: addictinginfo.org)
And now for some marvelous news!
Nancy Keenan, president of NARAL Pro-Choice America, commended Health and Human Services Secretary (HHS) Kathleen Sebelius for accepting an expert panel’s recommendation that family planning be considered preventive health care. Now, newly issued insurance plans must cover the full range of Food and Drug Administration (FDA)-approved contraception at no cost.
The federal health-care law requires newly issued health plans to cover - at no cost - certain preventive-health services that are specific to women. HHS appointed an Institute of Medicine (IOM) panel to recommend which services should be included. The panel of leading women’s health experts recommended fully covering family-planning care. Secretary Sebelius’ decision to adopt this recommendation will make no-cost contraception a benefit required by law.

This is a major victory for those of us who struggle with paying for birth control and will help organizations who had been providing it to people who could not pay because their insurance did not cover it.
Thank you, Kathleen Sebelius.
What to get that hard to buy for, sex-scandal ridden father in your life (if that’s a concern for you).